BECOMING THE GOLDEN HIBISCUS

BECOMING THE GOLDEN HIBISCUS

MASLOW'S META-NEED	JADE	SILVER	EBONI
Self-sufficiency	A successful woman is self-sufficient. She can stand up for herself. Knowing she can take care of herself.	Eventually [succesful people] can be by themselves and accept themselves, and be fine with that. This is me marching down the aisle. I have to find a way to make this happen You have to be ably to understand yourself and grow from yourself out before you can do anything else.	Success is when a person achieves what she's set out to do.
Goodness in service	the trip that I took with the choir to Mexico. What a lesson in sharing. The trip to Rawanda. How could I fit back in a world when I measured the cost of an item by how many pairs of children's shoes it could buy? Eventually we will live overseas, working with other womoen, encouraging them, teaching them...	I don't see myself being actulized in some Fortune 500 company. I want to actually touch somebody's life and make an actual difference.	She had no dress for graduation. I made [a cream lace] one.
Beauty of space	I remember watching the sunrise, the sunset, the lights of the fishing boats way out on the sea.	This park across from my home is a have for me. A solace. It's a place where i feel open and safe	I would just sit and watch the sunset. I could lose myself in it. The colors are like paint splashed against the sky. It was our house. But it was my space! I may be selfish but I need my space.
Individuality	Success is being content with who I am. I will mot melt into marriage and lose my identity.	The truest defintition of sucess that you can have is to belong inside yourself.
Perfection	A wise person doesn't say much. But what he says is good.	I remeber very specifically when I graduated from high school, I was obsessed with graduating with honors. I missed it by 3%. I think when I do something. I always think I could do it better. When I graduated from college, I graduated cum laude. But I could have graduated magna cum laude with a 3.8 if I had remembered to S/U the class. There were a lot of mad mistakes in the yearbook. I was proud of it. But it could have been better in a lot of ways. My speech at graduation. It was really that good!	It's not just blue. It's Wedgewood blue.
Justice	Just say what you need to and get it out! Actions speak louda dan voice.	I cannot let fear of my difference, of people looking at me as different stop me from righting an injustice when I see it.	The way things have happened for us is nothing short of God's blessings.
Simplicity and serenity	Simple but elegant. Like tulips. They don't have ruffly things going on. Success is when I'm at peace inside.	I'm just me. Just Sil.
Truth	God knows me better than I know myself. Use me Master, in your vineyard. keep me humble. Make me pure.	Everybody has highs and lows in their life. The way you really know you've learned from the highs is how you react to the lows. Everything happens for a reason. In the fulness of time you will see it.	God sacrificed his only son. My price tag was paid with his blood.
Humor and playfulness	Giraffes have lovely long eyelashes! If there was a spider. I'd jump of the jar!	Her sense of humor is woven through the dialogue, and I could not refrain from laughing even if my degree depended on it.	I wasn't going to school with the beached whale syndrome!