y involved in the dispute. Instead, you can simply offer counsel on how that individual might be able to go back to the other person and resolve their differences in private. In doing so, you are helping the individual to obey Jesus' instructions in Matthew 5:23-24 and 18:15, "If you ... remember that your brother has something against you ..., go and be reconciled," and "If your brother sins against you, go and show him his fault, just between the two of you."This process of offering individual counsel is sometimes referred to as "coaching," because the conciliator is offering encouragement and advice from the sidelines instead of getting directly involved with both parties in the dispute.
An effective coach will listen carefully and promote personal responsibility while guiding individuals through the basic steps of peacemaking, which we call the "Four G's:"Glorify God, Get the log out of your own eye, Go and show your brother his fault, and Go and be reconciled. (Taken from: Guiding People through Conflict, Peacemaker Ministries, copyright 2004)
That sounds like counseling. Is this counseling?
Conflict coaching is as much counseling as it is not. You are giving counsel, but it is to address the particular conflict being faced presently. Biblical Counseling is used to address life-long sin struggles and problems, and in this manner, conflict coaching differs significantly (quoted from Peacemaker Ministries).