F.O.R.T.—How to Talk to Kids

Some adults feel awkward around children and have no clue how to relate to them. F.O.R.T. is a useful acronym for learning the basics of making conversation with a stranger and starting spiritual conversations. With a slight shift of focus, it can apply to connecting with kids too.

F—Family: Ask about the person’s family. For kids, this could mean a question like, "Do you have any brothers or sisters? Are you the oldest, youngest or in the middle? Tell me about your sister and brothers."

O—Occupation: The adult question, "What do you do?" can easily be modified for kids: "What grade are you in? What is your favorite subject in school and why?"

R—Recreation: Kids love to talk about things they are interested in. "What do you like to do for fun?" is a good question. "Do you play music? Are you in any sports?" You might ask younger kids, "What are your favorite toys?"

T—Testimony Tidbit: This is where the conversation could be turned in a spiritual direction. Notice the word tidbit. This is not the time to share your whole story but rather to bring God into the conversation in a small way. Perhaps, "I love going to the beach, too! Isn't it fun to enjoy the beautiful creations that God made?"